Reflecting on my upcoming 55th
birthday, I am reminded that life is too short to worry about all the things
that are wrong with it, and to cherish all the things that are wonderful about
it. It is a reality that the quality of my physical life 20 years from now will
be substantially less than it is today. There is also a good chance every day
might be a new day depending on my future mental well-being. Some in my life
have already made that call for the latter. Yes, this particular blog is for those who find themselves a bit past their physical prime. There
is no doubt many of you are young at heart, as am I, and we would not have it any
other way. However, the days still pass and we better make the best of them.
Although our minds may say yes, our bodies occasionally provide a wake up call
that we may not be as young as we think. Passion for life, and the people you
love are the inspiration for a youthful heart, a gracious spirit, and a willing
body. Though we do not know what tomorrow may bring, a positive, humble and
selfless attitude today will make every moment a bit more joyful.
The theme of
the movie “The Bucket List” (2007) is a list of things the two main characters
played by Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman, wish to do before they “kick the
bucket” i.e. die, both of them being terminally ill. I encourage all of us to
create, activate and participate in your bucket list today. You are never too
young to list and plan for what you desire. What are your dreams, aspirations
and heartfelt wishes in life? That once in a lifetime trip, a completed
physical challenge, a degree, owning your own business, a passion to cook,
paint, sing, dance, and a relationship to fulfill are all examples of what
could be in your bucket. No regrets, no excuses and you must believe no one
will prevent you from checking off that list. It is a core belief in you and
what you stand for and believe in that will propel you to fulfill those
You may find yourself overwhelmed with the amount on your list, and
how wonderful to have a full bucket. Take the time to prioritize what you wish
for most. Subsequently evaluate
it, budget it, plan it, and make a commitment to make it happen. What is there
to lose, but time and that’s the point.
As in any endeavor, the road to accomplishment is never easy, and
checking off your bucket list items is no different. The life skills of
self-discipline, resiliency, determination, and perseverance are as needed to
empty the bucket as they are to overcome the trials and tribulations we face
every day. Would it not be more enjoyable and fulfilling to focus your energy
on emptying the bucket? As Emerson quoted, “Life is a journey not a
destination.” and Aristotle so eloquently stated, “Happiness is the meaning of the purpose of life, the whole
aim and end of human existence.” What are you waiting for?
the entire bucket may be unrealistic, but making a commitment to enjoy the
journey is essential for long-term happiness. The absence of a bucket list in
your life is the first step to waking up with less purpose, and acquiring a
pessimistic view of your future. Without something to look forward to, you will
emotionally and physically deteriorate.
Living life to the fullest is not about allowing life to control you,
but rather assimilating the values you believe in, and the desires you wish for
within the sphere of living.
Three gifts to being human are having the ability to smile, laugh, and cry. How wonderful to be complete in the expression of what it means to be alive. Discard your frailties, forgive your mistakes, forgive others who have harmed you, love those who love you and appreciate the little things that bring happiness to your life. A full bucket has the potential to provide nourishment for many. Strive to empty the bucket while bringing happiness to yourself and those around you. Enjoy the pour.