Hypothetically asking, when was the last
time you woke up one morning and what you thought you had was gone? Was
it a person, possession, position, an aspect of your health, family or
financial resources? How did you react, and how quickly did you ask yourself
questions and attempt to make sense of what just happened, and what you just
lost? Understand what is personally and professionally good in your life
should never be taken for granted nor neglected, but continually reflected upon
with a level of respect and appreciation. Why? Because you can never prepare
for life's unexpected twists and turns, and you never know exactly what
tomorrow may bring.
To neglect is to “fail to care for properly: not pay
proper attention to; disregard”. To take for granted is to neglect what may be
truly important in your life and career. As each day passes, do you outwardly
demonstrate less appreciation and respect for those who may be most important
to you, because they are always around you? What you perceive daily to be
mundane and average in your life may become desired and exceptional when it is
no longer there. A primary reason we all fall into this trap is because our
focus tends to be more about us, rather then taking the time to be more
selfless and thoughtful toward others, and the environment around us.
what we are used to that invites neglect, because it is the same old thing.
However, to neglect the same old thing is a choice and a mindset, and not an
excuse to be apathetic and miserable. There is nothing to celebrate when you
accept an invitation to attend your own life's personal pity party. Attending
only results in more excuses and less personal accountability. An attitude of
gratitude is the primary key that unlocks greater appreciation and respect for
what you have, what you have accomplished, and those you love. The more
appreciative you are the less likely you will be to take things or the people
around you for granted. Perspective also contributes positively to being more
grateful. In this context perspective is defined as, “a particular attitude
toward or way of regarding something; a point of view: true understanding of
the relative importance of things; a sense of proportion”.
Perspective is the
preventative medicine that restricts the onset of the "takeforgranted"
disease. To be empathetic and compassionate to what others may be suffering or
struggling with provides a greater understanding that the world does not
revolve around the one, but rather one another. It is always neglect of life's
little things that manifest into the most challenging of life's big things. The
number of examples that illustrate this are countless, and pertains to all
aspects of your life including emotional, physical, financial, familial,
spiritual, professional and environmental to list a few. To neglect the little
thing of eating healthy will result in a bigger thing namely sickness and
disease. To neglect the little thing of balancing your checkbook will result in
a bigger thing namely being overdrawn. To neglect the little thing of listening
to your children will result in a bigger thing namely a child’s impression that
Mom and Dad do not care. To neglect the little thing of demonstrating respect
for the person you love will result in a bigger thing namely a miserable and
unloving relationship. To neglect the little thing of being mindful of waste
will result in the bigger thing of an unsafe environment.
The major point, do not take for granted that the little things just happen, ensure that the little things always happen. To accomplish this takes discipline, perseverance, thoughtfulness and most importantly a willingness and desire to live a full life. Your personal core values and the application of them will provide you the strength to be disciplined and resilient when the unexpected happens, and when the little things appear to be meaningless. It is never easy to put others first, but it is a common thread that when sewed together brings forth the beauty of humanity and what it means to be truly human. As the Golden Rule so simply states, treat others as you wish to be treated.