A Little Consideration - Makes a Big Difference
Featured /To be considerate of another is to be
respectful of humanity. As a society, are we becoming less considerate?
With technology dominating so much of our time and attention, and the
continued trend toward greater face-to-smartphone interaction rather than
face-to-face interaction, what do you believe the answer to be? Considerate is
defined as, "showing kindly awareness or regard for another's feelings,
circumstances, etc." How considerate is it to cyberbully? How considerate
is it to be ill mannered? How considerate is it to be judgmental, bigoted and
cynical? How considerate is it to use profanity and be verbally abusive? How
considerate is it to be self-centered, egotistical and narcissistic? I firmly
believe the less we interact face-to-face the less cognizant we are of the
destructive nature of these behaviors, and therefor more inconsiderate of one
another. How can one be empathetic when one is less understanding of the
complexities of human emotion, and the hurt associated with inconsideration?
Terms associated with being considerate are kind, thoughtful, respectful,
amiable, polite, sympathetic and unselfish to name a few. Is the constant use
of technology heightening or lowering the understanding of the importance of
such positive behaviors. When was the last time you discussed those behaviors
with your children, or made a concerted effort to have them break away from
their smartphone for a second and be considerate of what you or someone else is
saying and/or doing? To be considerate is to initiate what it means to enjoy
being human. The acknowledgement of another with a smile or a warm greeting,
the respect demonstrated to another by being polite, or a genuine friendship
being enhanced by talking, listening, feeling and sharing are all examples of
uplifting the human experience. As Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “You cannot do a
kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late.”
Throughout
my travels I constantly witness the impact of technology on consideration.
There is no need to smile, be polite, talk, listen, feel or share anything when
your head is buried in your isolated technological bubble of apps, computer
games, social networking, etc. The ease at which many ignore others, or their surroundings,
as they consume themselves in the digital world hinders the understanding of
what a genuine and meaningful relationship involves. Technology is amazing,
will continue to expand, and has created global awareness, but how much
attention is being paid to add balance and ensure a belief in the beauty and
importance of true human interaction? Emphasizing the value of relationships,
family, community and service to others sustains a respectful and considerate
society. Tragically, the more one removes them self from the human experience
the easier it is to become less caring, and less sensitive to the needs of
others.
As with any endeavor, including the building of human relationships, it
takes effort. To be inconsiderate takes little effort and therefore generates
little success in building successful relationships. It also reinforces another
common trend of an acceptance of lowering the bar when it comes to expected
behaviors, and breeds laziness, apathy and a lack of self-respect.
Eight steps
to being more considerate are, * Set the example. * Remember to treat others as
you wish to be treated. * Make an effort to engage another when appropriate,
rather than ignore them. * Make it a habit to emphasize and execute a behavior
that displays consideration. * Consistently mentor your children in the
behaviors that exemplify being considerate. * Discuss with your children how
being considerate relates to the core values of your family. * Make a
commitment to take a break from technology, and enhance what it means to be
human. * Instill manners in your children, as it is the foundation for
demonstrating consideration. To display a character of consideration is to
display a considerate spirit of love, compassion and empathy toward others.
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